Why Healing Alone Sucks (And Why You Shouldn’t Have to Do It Anymore)

We’ve all been there.

You hit a personal low, have an existential breakthrough, or ugly cry in your car because someone at Trader Joe’s made direct eye contact with you and it was simply too much.

So you do what you’ve been taught:
✅ Journal furiously
✅ Light some sage
✅ Read a book with a flower on the cover
✅ Rewatch “Eat, Pray, Love” for the 7th time

And hey, those things help... a little.

But the truth is: healing alone can only take you so far.
(And spoiler alert: that’s not a flaw in your personal development strategy—it’s biology, baby.)

We Are Wired for Connection—Not Isolation

I'll repeat that, because it's that important:  WE ARE WIRED FOR CONNECTION, NOT ISOLATION.

Despite what hustle culture told us, you were not meant to “figure it all out” in a vacuum.

Neuroscience backs this up: our nervous systems regulate faster when we’re in safe, supportive social environments.

We feel safer.
We process emotions more effectively.
We literally heal quicker.

Translation: Having your sh*t together isn’t the result of grinding alone—it’s the result of being held in community.

But What If Community Hasn’t Felt Safe Before?

Let’s be honest: some of us have trauma around community.
Cue the flashbacks to mean girls, toxic workplaces, family drama, or those group projects where you did 98% of the work and Karen got the A. (Still not over it. Probably never will be.)

That’s why curated, intentional spaces like The Sisterhood matter so much. They aren’t just “women’s groups”—they’re healing containers where safety, vulnerability, and truth-telling are baked in.

This isn’t forced positivity or performance healing.
This is come-as-you-are, take-off-the-mask, speak-your-truth realness.
(Yes, crying is welcome. So is swearing. So is laughing until your mascara gives up.)

So What Actually Happens When You Heal in Community?

Let’s break it down, shall we?

💛 You start to realize you're not alone.
Someone shares something you’ve never said out loud, and suddenly your shame turns into solidarity. You’re not the only one who’s been there. And that changes everything.

💛 You get mirrors instead of megaphones.
No one’s yelling at you to “just manifest it” or “choose joy.” (Gross.) Instead, you get reflected back your own wisdom, power, and worth. And that? That’s transformational.

💛 You borrow belief.
When you're tired, when you're stuck, when your inner critic is screaming—community holds belief for you until you can hold it again for yourself.

💛 You show up differently in the world.
Because when you’ve been witnessed in your truth, your body remembers what it feels like to be safe, seen, and sovereign. That ripples out into every area of your life.

Let’s Normalize Asking for Support

There’s nothing noble about white-knuckling your way through healing.
There’s nothing strong about doing it all on your own.
What’s strong is being brave enough to let yourself be held.
To stop performing.
To stop perfecting.
And to start being human—beautifully, imperfectly, loudly human—with other humans walking the same path.

That’s Why I Created The Sisterhood.

It’s not just a group coaching program.
It’s not just a “monthly theme.”
It’s a lifeline. A mirror. A sacred space to be held, guided, and connected with a community of women who aren’t here to fix you—they’re here to walk beside you.

And yes, it’s also fun, witty, real AF, and full of “aha” moments that’ll have you texting your therapist, “You’ve gotta hear this…”

So if you’re craving something deeper—if your solo-healing era is tired and your soul is saying “more, please”—this is your moment.

“The women in this group became the sisters I always wished I had… Rachelle and Shonna created a trust bubble and by the end of the weekend, I felt completely recharged, energized, and ready to conquer my world back home.”

Yep. That’s the vibe.

And, all self-promotion aside, I care less that you join MY group and more that you just get into a any group healing space that feels accessible, safe, and possible for you, wherever you are at right now.

Want to go far? Go together.

The Sisterhood is relaunching April 1st.
Join before March 31st and get $5 off your first month with code: SISTERHOODVIP.

Because healing alone?
Kinda sucks.

Healing together?
Changes everything.